Self-Extensions, not Self-Projections

You can project yourself or extend yourself. Self-projection is based on how you want others to see you and self-extension is based on how you see yourself. Self-projecting has been a regular pattern in my life. I am aware of when I am doing it and often it goes on for years. I can also … Continue reading Self-Extensions, not Self-Projections

Start Where You Are, Not Where You Want to Be

    If your desire is not in line with the action you take, you will most likely not reach your desired result. You must learn to start where you are, not where you want to be. It is a misconception that taking action is the key to success. Even when those who are successful … Continue reading Start Where You Are, Not Where You Want to Be

More About the Process (Reaching your desired outcome)

I am repeatedly being drawn back to "the process". And thankfully, I enjoy it. There's something about being entrenched in it - not lost, not frustrated, not depressed - that makes me feel alive. I was reminded of this from an email I just received from David Siteman Garland. David creates and teaches people how … Continue reading More About the Process (Reaching your desired outcome)

Don’t Dismiss Your Dominant Thoughts

  For about a decade or so, skateboarding was my sport. I loved the freedom and constant opportunity to learn, grow, try new tricks and witness my progress. But sometimes, when I would set my board down in front of me and give it a push, instead of going straight, it would veer to the … Continue reading Don’t Dismiss Your Dominant Thoughts

Be Honest with Yourself, Not Hard on Yourself

Making an effort to positively change your life, especially when you've been in a rut for a long time, can at times make you pessimistic. That is, your efforts rarely seem to make the difference or lead you to the results you're looking for. Learning to replace established behaviors that lead you to further into … Continue reading Be Honest with Yourself, Not Hard on Yourself