Do you remember the old Tootsie Roll commercials? Specifically, the one with the jingle, ‘Everything I think I see becomes a tootsie roll to me’. If not, have a watch below.
Well, the reason for that is because there are patterns everywhere. Patterns, systems, regularities in just about everything. Most of us begin to notice patterns in life and people as we grow. And if you desire personal change, you will have to learn about your own patterns.
But this post is more about the common elements or ingredients involved in creating positive change in your life.
Common Elements of Personal Development
When you have the desire to change your life – financially, spiritually, physically, etc. – there are certain components always involved. While these may seem obvious, it’s in connecting with the right teacher, coach, therapist, etc. who will help you make your desired change.
No matter who you go to, no matter what class, course, webinar, workshop, you will always involve these core components. They are:
- your thoughts
- your emotions
- your behavior
That’s it. Obvious as hell, but my point is, it’s important to match yourself with the right teacher and modality.
Just because you tried something, a particular diet for example, and it didn’t work, doesn’t necessarily mean that method doesn’t work – it just didn’t work for you.
My hope in sharing this is to help you realize that you will not change your life in your desired way without changing those three elements above thoughts, emotions, behavior. Anyone you go to for help is going to somehow, in their own way, work with you to get you to change those thoughts, emotions, and behaviors that aren’t leading you to what you want, to leading you to what you want.
The Cherry on Top
If you want those new thoughts, emotions, and behaviors to stay, to stick, there is one sure thing to help do that: make an emotional connection with that new “X”. This is the reason why Tony Robbins does his 3-5-day seminars from 9 am – 10 pm. He knows he needs to get you, his participants to immerse yourselves in this new change. To get you to have an emotional response. That’s why his workshops are so intensively based.
I’ve never attended one and I’m not saying you need to. I’m just saying that you are more likely to succeed in creating and developing lasting change when you apply an intense emotional factor to it.
What might affect how you learn? The types of things you’ve learned before. “It’s not so much based upon how the brain is structured,” Alferink says, “it’s based upon our experiences.” So if you’re not a very strong reader, for example, you probably won’t learn very well by reading. “Our experiences do affect brain development,” he says. “The wiring of the brain depends upon the experiences we have.”
Enjoy working with common themes?
Here are the six human needs devised by Tony Robbins. These needs, according to him, are what we all strive to fulfill throughout our day and lives. When we don’t meet them, life can get pretty messy for ourselves.
The Six Human Needs
These aren’t the elements I want to talk about, but they are important and somewhat inspired this post. The 6 human needs were developed by Tony Robbins. They are:
You can learn more about the six human needs on Tony’s site, here. But, briefly, each one of us strives to fulfill these needs in some way. When we are unable to, things, that is, life gets messy.